02-12 TABLE of CONTENTS:
Statistics on Child Sexual Abuse,
Part 2.
DATES, ANNIVERSARIES, and
EVENTS
QUOTES from
Lewis and Simon's "A Discourse Not Intended for Her" and by Michelle
Pfeiffer.
Part 2 of Maxine Murdock on Child Sexual Abuse
This is part 2 of an article on how to recognize and prevent sexual
abuse of your child by noted authority Dr. Maxine Murdock. Dr. Murdock
says there are five things parents can do to help prevent abuse: WOA02-11
discusses the first three. We continue:
"4. Trust your feelings
as a parent, and encourage your children to trust their feelings. Any time
you feel uneasy about the activity between a child and another person,
intervene. ('It's time to go home,' or 'Let's eat now.') You need not explain
when you feel a situation is questionable. If a child is uncomfortable
with hugs or kisses from an adult, or even younger person, do not encourage
her to put up with them for the sake of avoiding a fuss. You might say,
'If you don't feel like hugging Uncle John, you don't need to. A friendly
handshake will be fine.' Then observe the situation carefully in the future.
If a child is uneasy about staying with a certain babysitter or relative,
find an alternative and explore with the child the reasons for her reluctance.
"5. Use the word secret carefully. Secrecy is
one of the abuser's most effective tools. You might want to use: the word
surprise when you speak of happy secrets. ('Don't tell mother. It's a birthday
surprise.')
[An aside: How many of those who claim they are defending the 'innocence
of children' by refusing to allow children to be educated about sexual
abuse are really protecting their right to abuse children by keeping
the child ignorant?]
(Part 1 of this segment is contained in WOA02-11.)
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02-12 DATES, ANNIVERSARIES, and
EVENTS
B. 02-12-1775, Louisa Catherine Johnson Adams, wife of John Quincy
Adams plagued by ill health, authored several autobiographical accounts
of life in the times and of the Adams family that graphically portrays
the restricted and boring life of an upper-class woman of the period.
B. 02-12-1851,
Anna Nikolaevna Essipova, Russian concert pianist and
noted keyboard teacher.
B. 02-12-1926,
Joan Mitchell, the leading American abstract painter
of her generation. Lived in Paris from 1959 until her death in 1992. Her
lush paintings were an accumulation of color.
B. 02-12-1938,
Judy Blume, writer of books for young
people. Extremist organizations attempt to have her books censored more
than any other author in the United States
Event 02-12-1976,
Roberta Kankus becomes the first women
operator of a commercial nuclear power plant.
Event 02-12-1986, Jan Kemp, was awarded $2.5 million in a lawsuit
judgment after she was fired as an instructor at the University of
Georgia for criticizing the policy of keeping football players in school
with failing grades. The judgment was reduced to $680,000 in has become
a typical lowering of awards by appeals courts in sex discrimination cases
won by women.
Event 02-12-1992, Sharon Kowalski finally went home. After an
eight-year battle to gain custody of her life partner who was badly injured
in an accident, Karen Thompson was named Sharon's guardian and took her
home. Karen had fought for the right of guardianship claiming Sharon's
father - who would have nothing to do with her before the accident - only
gave her warehousing, custodial care on the money awarded Sharon for her
accident and insufficient medical care. Karen showed that because of the
lack of physical therapy Sharon's muscles were shortening crippling her
further. And Sharon, though brain damaged, made it clear she wanted to
go with Karen. In the decision, the Minnesota Court of Appeals said that
the women were "...a family of affinity which
ought to be respected."
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QUOTES DU JOUR
"Listen
to the voices of women and the voices of men; observe the space men allow
themselves, physically and verbally, the male assumption that people will
listen, even when the majority of the group is female.
"Look
at the faces of the silent, and those who speak.
"Listen
to a woman groping for language in which to express what is on her mind,
sensing that the terms of academic discourse are not her language, trying
to cut down her thought to the dimension of a discourse not intended for
her."
-- Lewis and Simon, "A Discourse
Not Intended for Her: Learning and Teaching within Patriarchy," (1987).
Harvard Educational Review, Vol 56, No.4. [Submitted
to WOAH by Dorothy Dennett.]
PFEIFFER, MICHELLE:
"Well,
this has been a very good year for women. Demi Moore was sold to Robert
Redford for $1 million. Uma Thurman went for $40,000 to Mr. De Niro, while
just a few years ago, Richard Gere bought Julia Roberts for - what was
it - $3,000? I'd say that was real progress."
-- Michelle Pfeiffer during an introduction at the 1993 Academy Awards
show.
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